I am aware who my audience is - dancers. And I am not writing this without caution. Neither am I for or against anyone. I have to be honest, I wrote this after thinking of all the consequences it may bring, but none is intended to insult or offend anyone.
As our performance day draws to a near, tension starts to get high, tempers flare and relationships start to turn sour. These are all normal symptoms of performers getting nervous and highly strung as the big day looms.
But with the recent slate of unfortunate events, it has further enhanced such negative feelings. I cannot help but feel sad that as much as I hope everyone would be supportive and forgiving towards one another, we aren't.
Is it really impossible to see the situation from both parties' point of view? Or realise that at the end, all we want is to put up a good show? It's damn right easy to feel anger at the heat of the moment. But if this negativity remains after a good hour or 2, it really does no one good. As experienced as anyone can be, what we expect will almost always fall short of what happens in reality, but of course we will choose to believe that our expectations can be achieved, if not, why set up expectations in the first place? Time itself is an even harder object to maneuver. Don't you think it always flies or crawl faster or slower than we expect? Put time & expectations together and it's really just a perfect recipe for disappointment.
Anger itself can't be controlled, but the things we say can. When we realise our mistake, we apologize, but we do not do it frequently as it dilutes the sincerity. I do not believe our committee has been profusely apologizing such that it can render a "Always apologize also can't solve anything, already happen what." I can understand where both parties are coming from. Many wasted trips, wasted time, wasted money, dates lost etc. On the other hand, no intention of causing inconvenience to others has ever occurred. Only the best intentions did, which is to create the most visually appeasing piece for the audience. While another's ambition has caused you as an individual to suffer, but it has helped you as a dancer to improve. You are finally one step closer to putting up an even better piece for your loved ones to watch. Hence, I just wish people would put more thought into the things they say because words do hurt and just like this post, if exclamations and passing remarks are confused, it will only lead to more unrest.
We always believe in allowing others to understand our point of view, and in doing so make matters bigger than it is, sound more serious than it is, and bring focus to the wrong areas. Then I realize, it's impossible to please everyone. I don't deny that I do succumb to it at times, but I have mostly given up to let others see where I'm coming from.
Sometimes I try to imagine a situation where a person is dead. Because no one ever sees the bad side in a deceased. They only remember the good things the deceased has done. It is surely a horrific image, but if you think it through, it is true.
I just wish everyone could understand. See the picture others have in their minds. It's ok to be angry, but not hold grudges.
Almost a month away. Another month before I look back at this and think of how silly we are, yet feel nostalgic and get teary-eyed.
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